Maybe you’d like to start small; taking on a new challenge or building your resilience. Or you might be ready for a major change, either in your career or in your life.
How will transformation look for you? What will your life be like? Just imagine for a moment; when you are able to move forward how will your life be different? Let’s take away what’s holding you back.
We all need a champion to support us through changes. Give yourself permission to take the next step. Gain the clarity to move ahead in life instead of letting questioning, uncertainty, doubt drain your energy.
If you would like to explore how to brighten your path, or are just curious about coaching, contact me to schedule a complimentary discovery session.
I’m working on a presentation on centering for a women’s professional group here in Denver, and as I was gathering my research I came across a version of this statement:
An estimated 95% of our choices, behaviors, feelings, reactions, and decisions are made non-consciously.
Being somewhat fact-driven, I attempted to look this up and only found references to Gerald Zaltman, a Harvard professor, and his work on purchasing. And I found a discussion about how there’s no way to really measure cognition, but the 95% figure sounds reasonable based on all the things our brains are doing. This quote was particularly interesting:
“Consciousness appears to be a way to monitor and share the choices we make unconsciously. All the work to make most decisions is made before conscious awareness. The 95% is the actual cognitive effort of making decisions. The 5% is making up a story of why the decision was made.”
So what does this mean in a practical sense? We operate mostly from the shortcuts that our brains have developed over the years, and we may not be making the best decisions or having the best reactions as a result. We have ingrained stories and beliefs that often are mostly untrue, and we base our actions on these stories.
And how do we change this? By developing awareness, and noticing when we are basing our reactions or decisions on reasons we haven’t fully processed.
I will be posting a resource list from my centering presentation and more info on how to use centering to develop awareness, so keep an eye out!
If you would like to explore how to brighten your path, or are just curious about coaching, contact me to schedule a complimentary discovery session.
Most of us are used to being in control, at least to some degree. Right now, control is one thing we don’t have a lot of! Not being able to see friends and family. Jobs and income may be gone, or uncertain. School has been a challenge, and we have no idea what it might look like in the next school year. Even shopping is no longer the fun diversion it once was.
And rather than get stuck in the “what-ifs,” we can take back some feeling of control by acknowledging that we still can choose how we react. We can choose to believe that we will be able to handle whatever might come next, even if it’s going to take some time to figure out. One way to do this is to remind yourself of any adversity you’ve faced in the past and overcome.
It’s completely expected that we have down days, or feel overwhelmed. And we know this situation might last for a while. But we are resilient; we can pull on both our inner and outer resources to help us keep going. Reconnect with old friends, set up a group zoom call, take a walk in nature, or find a calming practice such as meditation. Maybe find a way to help those who are worse off than you. It’s important to take care of ourselves when we have additional stress, and most of us have some increased stress right now!
This situation is largely beyond our control, but the only way out is through it. Let’s keep pushing forward together!
I want to help out if anyone needs someone to listen; I’ve created a meetup group that will have zoom calls where we can help support each other. Join here: https://www.meetup.com/Denver-Connection-and-Support-Meetup/ and I hope to see you at one of the events!
Drop me a line if you have any questions or suggestions, or just want to talk. barbara@barbaraalfors.com If you are curious about coaching, contact me to schedule a complimentary discovery session.
It seems that one of the most valuable things for many people right now is connection. I’m noticing that with everyone in a state of uncertainty, not knowing how long we will have to “stay at home,” and not knowing what changes there will be in the coming months and years.
Sometimes you just need someone to be there to listen to you!
I want to help out if anyone needs someone to listen; I’ve created a meetup group that will have zoom calls where we can help support each other. Join here: https://www.meetup.com/Denver-Connection-and-Support-Meetup/ and I hope to see you at one of the events!
Drop me a line if you have any questions or suggestions, or just want to talk. info@barbaraalfors.com
Barbara Alfors was trained by both boas partners and CTI, the oldest coach training company in the country.
Barbara is a CTI co-active coach and holds a boas pcc certification as well as an PCC (Professional Certified Coach) from ICF, the International Coach Federation.
Barbara has also been a registered architect with 20 years experience in custom homes.
